I’ve finally surrendered my marriage over to the Lord!
After so many years of fighting our differences I have laid it all down at the feet of Jesus.
I’m handing it all over to Him.
In prayer I am surrendering my marriage over to God and opening my heart and hands in representation of the release of my marriage to Him.
I’m exchanging the pain, heartache and wondering what the future might hold for our marriage for God’s good and perfect will for our marriage.
In Proverbs 3:5-7 the Lord instructs us to ….”Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the Lord, and depart from evil.”
Here the Lord is saying that we cannot do this by our own self will and abilities, but we must trust in the Lord and ask for His strength.
If we put our trust in Him, He promises to remove the obstacles that are a hindrance to our marriage and straighten the stressful path.
When we give our marriage over to the Lord and fully trust in Him with the understanding that our marriage is a gift from Him, it can bring God glory and ourselves joy when we surrender our marriage to Him.
He already knows what’s broken and needs mending.
He knows what is good and worthy of nurturing and protecting.
He knows the time that we have invested in our marriage is worth preserving.
He knows the things that I need to improve on.
He knows the things that my husband needs to improve on.
He knows what I need to change in order to be a Godly wife that nurtures and respects my husband.
He knows what my husband needs to change in order to be a Godly man that nurtures and respects me as His wife as well.
I am allowing the Lord to lead me in the areas that need correcting.
I understand that I have made many errors in our relationship.
We both have.
I am asking the Lord to make me aware of those past mistakes so that I do not continue to make them.
I am praying the same for my husband, however I will have to leave his part of surrendering his past mistakes into the hands of the Lord.
I cannot do the work for my husband. He has to be willing to do the work of restoration and healing on behalf of our marriage as well.
I am trusting God, and allowing Him to transform our marriage.
I know our marriage isn’t perfect.
Actually it’s far from it.
Whose marriage is perfect?
Marriage takes work! A lot of work!
Yes, there have been enormous heartbreaks, words we can’t take back, unwise decisions and choices that can’t be undone, and years wasted on trying to change one another.
If I’ve learned anything along this journey as a married couple, it is this,
You can’t take away the pain by adding more pain.
You can’t take away the bitterness by adding more bitterness.
You can’t take away those hurtful words by adding more hurtful words.
You can’t take away the unwise choices by adding more unwise choices.
You can’t take away those wrong decisions by adding more wrong decisions.
You can’t take away the bad behavior by adding more bad behavior.
You can’t offer forgiveness if you are unwilling to forgive one another yourselves.
We both have to be willing to change.
We both have to be willing to forgive.
We both have to be willing to do better.
We both have to be willing to have a desire to do better.
We both have to resolve to change those habits that we have become so accustomed to during our marriage.
We both have our annoying habits.
We both get angry.
We both say things we don’t really mean.
We both have done things we wish we could take back.
We both have uttered words we wish we could take back.
But even amidst all that seemed to have gone wrong along the way, there is still so much that has gone right.
My husband gets me and I get him.
I understand him and he understands me.
We kind of just click in certain areas and those are the things that make us perfect for each other and cause us to enjoy one another’s company.
He knows my moods and I know his.
He cares about the things that I care about.
I care about the things he cares about.
He accepts me for who I am.
I accept him for who he is.
He loves me for who I am.
I love him for who he is.
Can we do better? Yes!
Are there things we should do better? Yes!
There are always those opportunities to improve and make our relationship stronger.
Can we open our hearts and resolve to stop the fighting and bickering with one another?
Can we take our broken hearts and place them into the hands of the one who can piece them back together again?
Can we learn how to forgive one another?
Scripture reminds us in Colossians 3:13: “Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man has a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do you.”
May we learn how to exhibit patience, love and forgiveness towards one another.
Not only for the heartbreak, the hurtful words, the unwise decisions, bad choices, or the wasted years trying to make each other into someone we’re not, but maybe we could forgive one another for wanting to make our marriage into what we wanted it to be, and not necessarily what God wants it to be.
Maybe if we could forgive ourselves for forgetting what it means to become one flesh, as the Lord intended and is reflected in the Godly union of man and woman.
“Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” (Genesis 2:24 KJV)
God intended for man and woman to share the immense depth and love of their one-flesh union.
In the creation of both man and woman He understood that we would have differences.
It is important to understand that those differences weren’t designed to restrict us, divide us, separate us, or cause us to oppose and be set against one another. On the contrary, they’re meant to embody, unify and bring us together into closer bonds with each other.
Marriage is a partnership and both have to be willing to do the work.
Both the easy and the hard!
There will be times of difficulty, trials, grief, loss, sorrow, health related issues and even financial uphills that we must battle, but if we are willing to stay connected, support, respect and love one another through everything we endure, while allowing God’s sustaining power to strengthen us, there is nothing that we cannot achieve together.
I understand that our marriage isn’t past the point of unrepairable.
Yes, we both have flaws and imperfections that should be addressed.
We both have selfishness, apathy and pride buried deep within our hearts that needs conquered, but God is perfectly able to bring transformation into those areas and exceedingly far more.
God’s Word, Power and Truth can revitalize what appears to be a hopeless situation and make it joyous, blissful and satisfying.
God has the power to restore our marriage.
Nothing is too difficult for the Lord.
“Behold, I am the Lord, the God of all flesh: is there anything too hard for me?” (Jeremiah 32:27)
When we resolve to release our marriage into the Lord’s faithful hands, that is when we can confidently declare that there is nothing too hard for those who put their hope and trust in Him.
God is able to do immeasurably more than we can ask or imagine in our hearts and in our marriage.
Therefore, in my surrender, I will keep looking to God, praying, trusting, and thanking Him for my husband and for my marriage.
I thank you for the gift of my husband and marriage. I humbly surrender myself and my marriage into Your loving hands and Your sovereignity. Give me the wisdom and the desire to daily seek to be a godly example of what a wife should be to her husband. Lord, help me to always live intentionally for You and by Your Word and by making You the center of our marriage. Give me the yearning and strength to be the kind of wife You want me to be and not who I want to be. Transform my mind, my heart and my thinking and make me into the person that is perfectly suited into the plan You have for my husband and our marriage. In Jesus’ name, Amen..
What is that hard thing that God is asking you to surrender?
Pray to God and ask Him to reveal it to you. We need His direction over our lives and even our marriages, for without it we wonder helplessly!
“O LORD, I know that the way of man is not in himself: it is not in man that walketh to direct his steps.”
In His Love,
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